On Tuesday, it will be 4 months since my dear mother (Isabella Payne) died. In that time, I've been overwhelmed with support from all angles - close friends, old friends, colleagues, charities, people I didn't know well, some I didn't know at all and of course my loving wife and family.
I'm not easily impressed, although I was touched by all the
love given and help offered; especially by some friends I hadn’t seen in over a
decade. I couldn't use the majority of
the support, but just the fact that it was put forth so genuinely was of great
comfort.
In addition, many of the wise words, advice, emails,
letters, cards, texts and video's as I was going through this surreal
experience helped immensely. I was also glad to see the thoughtful
donations given to my mom’s favorite charities, including the Central Pennsylvania Food Bank and American Diabetes Association.
One of the most memorable moments occurred at my mother’s Memorial on May 11, which was attended by approximately 250 people. Numerous
individuals whispered in my ear; telling me what my mother meant or did for
them.
Through it all, my caring cousin, Andrea Nolley, was there for me.
She was my rock in the USA before my mother died, during her sickness and the 4 months
since she passed. I'll forever be grateful for all that she did and continues
to do. My mother loved her like a daughter.
Living in Sweden
presented a huge obstacle to getting all the estate particulars done in the USA, but since
my mother was very organized, the main tasks (financial part/house cleaning) went
smoothly. She had a will and was with the same lawyer for over 25 years, which
made the process much easier.
The final piece of the estate puzzle (closing on my mom’s
house) was settled a few weeks ago. I sold it to a family friend and couldn’t
be happier to have the house in the care of someone we know.
And how fitting that after everything was done in the USA, I received
a beautiful hand drawing of my mom. What a lovely gesture from a
talented artist and good friend.
Thanks to everyone who supported me and the many that
offered help. Your kindness warmed my heart and was crucial in helping me navigate
a most challenging summer. My appreciation is high for each and every one of
you.
Happy Gswede Sunday!
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| 1982 - The night I scored my 1000th point in High School. I presented the game ball to my mother. |
1 comment:
Cuz, I'm glad I was able to be there for you. She wanted everything to be easy for you. Anything to help you through this difficult time. Having been through losing my Mom, I know it helps to have support from family and friends. I miss Auntie tremendously. She was and will forever be very special to me. She was comforted knowing that we would have each other. She will forever be the link that continues to strengthen our bond. I've gained a brother that I never had. Love u!!
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